My Dreamy Mondays... A Wish for Someone Special

This Monday isn’t about the crazy dreams I’ve had lately… but it is about a dream, a wish, which I have for someone that is very special to me.

This someone recently got engaged. Of course I am excited and happy for her, but at the same time, I’m not. I want her to be happy and loved, I want her to know she is loved and to know that she deserves happiness, I want her to know that she deserves to have her dreams come true. But, the truth is, I just don’t think she believes any of those things. I feel like she is settling. I feel like she doesn’t believe she deserves better, like she doesn’t believe in herself.

As far as I can remember, she always wanted children, but once she started dating her fiancé; she started saying she didn’t want kids – because he never wants any. She was always so family oriented, but once she started dating her fiancé; her family barely ever saw or heard from her. Her fiancé is not a family man; he does not go to any family birthday or holiday gatherings with her, so she must go alone if she wants to go. Those are just a few examples.

I am sure he is a nice enough guy, but there just seems to be so much that makes her unhappy. It seems as though she is doing all the compromising in their relationship while he is not compromising at all. I truly hope I am wrong. I hope none of what I see is true, I hope she is happy and in love and that she will be happy with her fiancé for her whole life, but if I’m right and she is not happy…

I wish I could wisk her away and show her how much better she deserves. I wish I could help her stand up and believe in herself. I wish I could make her see how truly amazing she is. If she ever reads this - I just want her to know that she is loved, that we will be here for her no matter what, that it is never too late to decide you deserve better and to do something about it.

If only...

If only adults could act like children… in some situations. When you see your spouse after a day at work, do you get super excited and jump up and down and go running to see him? Well, actually, sometimes I do… but not every day. It happens maybe once every 2 weeks or so. Yet, EVERY SINGLE DAY that I get home from work our son comes running to the door to greet me, he claps his hands and bounces up and down and I am sure if he knew how to jump, he would, but he only just turned one. Then when I pick him up he puts his arms around my neck and squeezes, giving me a hug that lasts a good long 30 seconds (that’s long for a 1 year old!). How truly loved (and missed) I feel when he greets me, how awesome a feeling to know I am so deeply loved. An amazing thing about a one year old… he shows his true emotions no matter what. It doesn’t matter what’s proper or who’s watching, he is just so open with his heart. When I ask him before bed if he wants to nurse, he laughs and smiles and waves him arms frantically while shaking his head ‘yes’ and handing me the burp cloth. When we ask him if he wants to go visit family, or go ride his bike, or eat a snack he also gets so excited. It is these small moments that make life worth living, these moments that we will remember forever.

At what age does it become inappropriate to act like this? Why isn’t is ‘proper’ for an adult to jump up and down when they see someone they love, that they have been missing for the past hour, day or week?

I hope that at least a part of him keeps this enthusiastic, jubilant exuberance. I hope that he always feels free to express his happiness and joy. I will try to set a good example for him… I will try to be more free, less worried about being ‘appropriate’. When I get home today, I will run to him and my husband and jump up and down, and tell them that I am so happy to be home with them for the evening. I will be excited and I will show my excitement!