Thursday, July 1, 2010

Thankful Thursdays - My Life, My Loves, My Family!

I am so thankful that I have such a great husband and son. They are the best and just thinking about either of them brightens my entire day. I am so thankful that soon I will be able to stay home with my little guy full-time and that my husband is so supportive of me staying home… and just of me in general :)  I am so thankful to have the life we have!  And although I am completely thrilled with our family and our life, I long for another baby… but we aren’t really going to try for that for another month or 2 at least. But I still think about it and it has brought me to the question… Should someone try for a girl or boy???

Ideally, K and I would love to have a boy and a girl… and we have been thinking about this a lot lately. Right now we have the best little boy in the world and although I know we would be thrilled if we were to get pregnant with another boy, we still kind-of want a girl.

A neighbor was telling me about a book she read when trying to have a girl after having 2 boys. How to Choose the Sex of Your Baby, by Dr. Shettles. She swears by his methods and is convinced this is why they have their daughter. So, I requested the book from the library and have been reading it. Now, Dr. Shettles claims about a 90% chance for having a boy and about a 70% chance for having a girl (if you follow his methods), but yet I still feel weird about it.

If you have read previous posts of mine, like this one, you know that I am a firm believer in the “everything happens for a reason” theory. I don’t like to be the determiner of things that I think should happen naturally. So… do I feel okay about increasing my chances of getting pregnant with a girl??? I’m just not sure.

Part of me feels like it is not 100%, so it isn’t the same as forcing nature. I mean, if we are meant to have another boy, we probably still would??? Yet the other part of me feels like it is still playing with something that maybe should not be played with. I think back to before we got pregnant with Little C. We didn’t try anything special, we just let nature take its course and we ended up with the most amazing little boy in the world. Had we tried for a girl… maybe C wouldn’t be here (I don’t even like writing that!!!), and really we can’t imagine our lives without him! But then if we try for a girl and it happens, I am sure we wouldn’t be able to imagine our lives without her either.

And then there is the whole timing issue.  I would really love for C and his sibling to be 2-2 1/2 years apart, but the Shettles method could take a while.  We were super lucky with C that we got pregnant right away.  Not going to eleborate on this concern too much, just saying that it is another issue to consider for us.

So, what do you think? Do you feel like following certain methods to increase your chances or having one sex over the other is like playing with nature? Would you do it?


LeeAnn said...

According to the Shettles method, my little boy should be a girl. (We weren't using that...but I know all of the different variables that you would need to know for that method.) So sure, you could always *try*, but I certainly wouldn't count on it.

The only thing wrong that I see with it is that if you are really trying for one sex and you end up with the other, will you feel bad?

Momma Such said...

I sort of think that the more you stress yourself about getting pregnant and think about it the harder it can sometimes be to actually conceive. If you are timing things out for a certain sex it could take longer. I have never read the book, nor do I know what this method is, but I believe that all things happen for a reason and even if you do the method and you are supposed to conceive another boy then you will have another boy...just my opinion though.
Look at me...4 boys and a baby on the way! :)